You Want Him Back? Here’s How

“Two words. Three vowels. Four consonants. Seven letters. It can either cut you open to the core and leave you in ungodly pain or it can free your soul and lift a tremendous weight off your shoulders. The phrase is: It’s over.” ― Maggi Richard.

But what if you can turn it all around? What if you can get him back to want you before it’s too late?

Tom Daniels, a communicator that focuses on long term relationships, believes there are two parts for a woman to build back a relationship that is over. The easy part; getting him back and the hard part; keeping him once you’ve got him back. Daniels says that “men have specific emotional hot buttons that if exposed, and pushed correctly they psychologically hijack, trigger and control his mind with an intense attraction that makes him want you back.” Some of the men’s emotional hot buttons can be triggered through rejection, being unavailable and having confidence. These factors play quiet an important role in getting back your ex.

It is human nature that we want back the things we can’t have and the people who reject us. This is why women often want their men so badly despite being rejected. Now, a common mistake that women often fall into is begging or asking for their partner back. What women should rather do is accept it and say “I agree with you”. That automatically turns things around creating the perception that the woman is the one that held the power of decision making and the man is the one left being rejected.

It is sometimes so that people lose value in what they have when it is constantly available in front of them. Women think it is intelligent to be behind their husbands after a break up trying to get him back. The more available they are trying to reach out for their ex, the more rejected they will be. It is very much possible that he would see her true value only after she accepts to walk away from him.

Another problem is that females often lose self-confidence after the break up or yet worse lose it during the relationship itself. That, on its own can drive your man away. This means that women start worrying about getting cheated on during a relationship even if the man is perfectly loyal or they lose interest in dressing up gorgeously and wear make-up as they normally used to. When a woman shows weakness or loss of self-confidence, she reflects that energy onto her ex’s perception of her. Men like strong women who believe in themselves no matter what. They find it seducing to stay beautiful and attractive even after a break up. They might yet even see you more beautiful again because of the rejection mentioned above with respect to you maintaining your confidence and beauty.

In conclusion, trying to explain things, appealing to his intelligence, trying to captivate him using children and being nice won’t work, they just might make things worse. The best thing to do is to trigger his emotional hot buttons by playing on his psychology. Daniels says “Learn to stop being a “nice girl” that men say they want, but really don’t.”

Mai Elsayed

A Mass Communication alumna from the American University of Sharjah. Loves writing about human related stories and factors that affect our psychological well being such as relationships, love and family.

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