Faks (meaning Facts) About Life is an Online Blogger. She is a real person with real life experiences of struggle and endurance. Having experienced both illness and domestic violence, this remarkable woman transforms her negative experiences into newfound hope and an aspiration of just, plain…helping people.
Rumki Chowdhury:You have many roles, but one of which I recently heard about is support for women experiencing DV. You helped a victim of domestic violence escape it. How would you describe your role or mission in life despite your many professions (Mathematician, Senior Leader, Leadership Consultant, Author, Deputy Head Teacher)?
Faks:Gosh, that’s a tough question. I have never really been the type to “have a mission” or a role as per say. I would say I am a perfectionist and hence whatever role I choose to take on in life or am given/face I choose to want to do it well.
Firstly, I have always wanted to be the daughter and sister my family are proud of. Secondly, I try to just be a normal person that’s nice and never claim to be something I’m not.
However, when it comes to morals and, something I’m passionate about, sometimes I can’t help but get involved. For example, with this recent victim, she and her family reached out and morally I couldn’t say no. Having experienced what she was going through how could I not?! I think anyone with a heart would have done the same.
RC:You have had quite a remarkable life, one where you discovered your most inner-strength and endurance. Please, share some of your experiences with us and what you have learned from them?
F: I have been told I am strong a number of times now and truth is I don’t think I am. Yes, I have experienced serious accidents, had a cancer scare and experienced an awful marriage (none of which I would ever wish on anyone else) but I think:
One: I have amazing parents and brothers who are my strength,
Two: I have an easy-go nature and hence take things on as and when they come.
Three: Allah gives you strength in times of need even when you don’t think you have it.
As for endurance, when it came to accidents, being ill or my marriage I did what I felt was right at the time to ensure loved ones around me were not effected by my pain. In my marriage, I would cover up many, many scenarios by either keeping myself busy or placing a smile on my face and focusing on trying to fix a broken situation.
That said, I am human and still have weak moments where I may break down.
RC:What is the most valuable life advice or tip you can give to us?
F: Oh, that’s tough! Love and appreciate your parents. As corny as it may sound they are your true strength. Don’t let your identity go, respect and value yourself; because if you don’t, no one will. Just enjoy the little things in life and the bigger things shall follow. Oh and finally, for the younger crowd, appreciate your education and go out there and thrive to be the best you can be, compete with yourself and not others because an education goes a long way.
That’s more than one tip! Eek!
RC:You are a blogger. What do you blog about and how can we access it?
F: Ah, yeah… I’ve recently been referred to as a Blogger / Influencer but I’m not sure if I actually deserve the title just yet? I predominantly run off Instagram, my insta handle is @FaksAboutLife – the handle says it all Faks(Fakhra) About Life.
I was approached with a few opportunities based around my lifestyle and hence after much deliberation and persuasion the page started from there. You’ll find updates on restaurants and dining experiences for which some I have published articles, outfit inspos, updates on social events within the fashion and charity industry (including behind the scenes for events I am invited too) and then a few snippets into my personal journey of DV.