Written by Wardah Abbas
My eyes flip through pages of my old photo albums and I can’t help but feel a slight sense of despair over the reality that time brings into our lives. I see the pleasant looking faces of all my childhood friends as we shared precious, timeless moments together. The innocent, funny looking faces, the pouted lips, the charming smiles, the pretty dresses with puffy shoulder pads and kinky hairs tied into big buns with fancy ribbons. I close my eyes and let my mind travel back to when I was five, to live in that moment, to feel everything once again.
Then I ask myself, Where did all this time go? Where are all these people? What happened to us?
But the answer is clear. Life is what happened. Time and distance too. And for a few of us, a very weepy breakup, which brings me to writing this emotional letter to all the beautiful people that have graced my life with the gift of a beautiful friendship.
To my past friends, it is an understatement to say that I miss you so bad. You graced the early years of my life, colored it and made it a memory to always look back on and smile. You are the highlight of my childhood and teenage years. I can’t forget the bad girl pranks, the playful teasers, our play times together, the birthday parties,the street fights and whatnot. The ‘me’ you knew back then is the old me. I have changed in so many ways for good, ways you may not even be able to imagine. It could be the reason we no longer fit into one another’s lives. But breaking up with you in whatever way it happened was harder than you can ever imagine.It’s really sad when the people you once knew every detail about become just another profile on your Facebook feed. It’s sad when something big happens in my life and you’re no longer there to share in the joy. Whether it was my fault or yours or just life as it happens, I really want to thank you for all the good memories that make me nostalgic; ones I will never forget. I miss you and will always do. Most of all, I wish you a life full of colors.
To my present friends; I love you. Sharing my life with you is the most amazing thing in my life right now. From the chitchats at our occasional meet ups to the calls and texts on Whatsapp, never will I take any of it for granted. I appreciate your constant love and support and I promise to always be there for you, to celebrate your high moments, to always have your back in times of need, to always be there to listen and hand you the handkerchief when things get messy. I will always be your friend for all seasons. I want you to always remember that the basis of our friendship is the value we each possess. I need to let you know that I love you for the amazing person that you are, not for what you have in terms of material things. I want you to never forget that we are not in a rat race, that our lives are uniquely different and our beauty lies in our differences. Most of all, I want to thank you for letting me be me without any apologies and for making me feel accepted, warts and all. I hope our friendship continues to wax stronger.
To my future friends; be ready. I could be more than a handful sometimes. I could be moody, sensitive and quick-tempered. Sometimes, I want to talk on and on about anything and everything that’s going on with me. And sometimes, I don’t want to answer the phone at all. But in spite of all, I promise to always be fun, to always be your go to talk partner, to always want the best for you, encourage you, support you and pray for you. I promise to always be a good friend. But whenever you don’t hear from me, know that life is taking its toll and don’t forget to always check on me.
Bio: Wardah Abbas is a Lawyer who chose to pursue a career in writing. She’s passionate about Islam and has a particular interest in green and wholesome living. When she’s not writing, spending time with her family or bonding with a book, she can be found in the kitchen, whipping up edible ingredients into luscious skincare. Find her blogging at greenmuslimblog.com or visit her website at wardahabbas.com.