What to do when things don’t go your way

1HH5ZHYI3FI’ve been taking some time off of everything, blogging included because I had a project that I was working on really hard and I wanted to focus just on that. It caused me a lot of stress, headaches but also a lot of happiness due to the anticipation. But at the end, it miserably failed and at least I’m glad to say that it wasn’t my fault.I wasn’t so positive a few weeks ago, obviously I was sad and felt down. I don’t know how else I could possibly feel after seeing my hard work go to waste. But as a very smart person once said ‘’never a failure, always a lesson”. Anyways, life goes on and here are the steps to follow when things don’t go your way .


This is the hardest step, the reason why it’s the first one? If you get over the fact that things don’t go your way or didn’t happen as planned you will save a lot of energy. It’s not easy at all, especially if you did everything you were supposed to do and still haven’t succeeded. The ugly truth is, crying and complaining over the past isn’t going to make the future any better. We don’t control what happens to us but we can choose to have the best reaction. Learn from this experience so you can be more prepared next time. These emotions need to be processed, not repressed. By process, I mean to gain awareness and deal with them in a conscious manner.Emotional resistance creates suffering.  Stress happens when your mind resists what is. Don’t hurt yourself, accept reality.


You are not in control of every aspect of your life, and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. We plan and we organize our life in a way we think is good for us. But what if the one who knows better decided to save you from your own desires. When things don’t go your way it’s a form of redirection toward something better. We don’t get to see what he sees. When I realized that I was fighting for something that wasn’t mine, I prayed that God makes me overcome the sadness of not getting what I want and realize that everything is happening according to the best plan, the one he has for me. I am exactly where I am supposed to be. I’m not saying to let go of your dreams, Trusting life’s greater plan does not mean that we have permission to do nothing. I am just saying not to let them control us to an extent where we forget to use our brain.


As I said, don’t cry over the past but also don’t fantasize about the future being better if you’re not going to put the work in now. Do whatever you can with what you have. Don’t wait for what you may have to start because you might never reach it. There is a beautiful quote that says “life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance in the rain”, how truth is this? I used to be the girl who always waits for better circumstances to give my all. Now I only realize that I lost so missed so opportunities, lost so much time thinking that it didn’t worth my energy cause it wasn’t the right moment.

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Maryam Kabir
Maryam Kabir

Nigerian lifestyle blogger at Veilbymaryam. Business administration student. Cupcake and makeup lover. Trying to help women of her community by sharing her opinions and experiences with everyone who's want to listen.

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